The fear of abandonment might be a fear of being left without support or connection, which touches on a sense of being unseen or unloved.

Sometimes, it’s not just about losing someone – it’s about losing the version of yourself that existed with them. It’s about losing the comfort, identity, or sense of belonging they provided.

The fear of losing others can also be tied to an existential fear: what is left when they are gone? Will you still feel whole? Will you still matter?

But underneath all of this, what are you truly afraid of?

When you look closer, it might be a fear of facing yourself alone. This could be because being alone forces you to confront your own emotions, beliefs and unresolved issues, which can feel overwhelming or uncomfortable.

Fearing abandonment can be a mask for a deeper fear of self-relationship. The thought of being alone might symbolize facing parts of yourself that you’ve neglected, suppressed, or haven’t fully come to terms with.

The only way to make peace with this fear is to rebuild the lost connection to yourself. To trust yourself and that even if people come and go, you are not lost.