There is a deep social conditioning that seeks to control aggression rather than integrate it.
Being angry at your mother, for example, is considered an absolute taboo. Society treats mothers as sacred figures — idealized with unconditional love, beyond reproach, to be honored and cared for.
Fathers, too, are often placed on a pedestal as the unquestioned authority of the family — the patriarchal cornerstone that must never be challenged.

And to honor or care for one’s parents would be no problem if they, too, were honoring and loving their children in return.
But that’s not always the case. They set the tone. They deliver the blueprint.
And we all know what happens when the blueprint is built on fear and domination — when “unconditional love” turns out to be deeply conditional.

If you beat a dog and chain it, it will grow angry and bite. If you love and care for it, it responds with trust.
Yet we rarely draw this parallel with our own children. In our human history, we’ve looked down on them as if they weren’t fully human yet — as if their emotions were less real, their pain less valid.
It’s striking that in 19th-century England, laws protecting animals from cruelty were passed decades before any laws protecting children.
That’s how deep the blind spot goes.
And even now, echoes of that old hierarchy remain — we moralize obedience, punish defiance, and mistake submission for respect.

Guilt and shame have been the moral tools of control for centuries — primal leashes on the human will.
They undermine self-worth and suppress our natural aggression, the very force that protects our dignity and boundaries.
Shame is the emotional equivalent of a tucked tail — the body’s way of signaling defeat in a hierarchy.
Guilt-tripping and shaming attack the will directly; they are powerful tools to keep people compliant, to crush their spirit.
You can find them everywhere — in families, schools, workplaces, and spiritual communities. They are the quiet architecture of every system built on fear and domination.

And yet, the original message of every true spiritual path — whether spoken by mystics, saints, or sages — points to liberation from guilt, not submission to it.
It’s guilt that chains the human spirit, making us heavy, docile, afraid of our own radiance and power.

All control-based systems eventually backfire.
Suppressing the emotional and energetic truth of our bodies doesn’t make us virtuous — it only makes us volatile, collectively and individually.
What gets repressed doesn’t disappear; it waits. It builds.
Until one day, it returns — as anger, illness, collective rage, or the repetition of the same destructive patterns we claim to have outgrown.

So if we teach children to fear us, to stay small, to suppress their anger to avoid punishment or the withdrawal of love — what else can we expect?
A child whose identity depends on staying small will either break, or grow up to become the next link in the chain — repeating the same pain from the other side of the hierarchy.