We see others based on our own beliefs, expectations, and biases. How we view someone reflects our own mindset and assumptions more than it shows who they really are.

Here’s what’s going on:

Ego: Our sense of self, built on pride, insecurities, and attachments, often prevents us from seeing others clearly. The ego needs to feel superior or validated, so it distorts perceptions to protect its identity.

Perception: Our perception is never objective, it’s subjective. Our view of others is colored by our experiences, values, and emotions. What we think of someone says more about us than about them.

Projection: We project our undesirable thoughts, emotions, and feelings onto others. It’s a defense mechanism that allows us to distance ourselves from our own negative traits by perceiving them in someone else.

Judgment and Stereotyping: When we approach others with preconceived notions or judgments based on their appearance, behavior, or background, we automatically filter them through that lens. This leads to seeing them only as we want to, not as they are.

Cultural Conditioning: The culture we’re raised in plays a huge role in shaping how we view others. Cultural norms, traditions, and societal expectations create lenses through which we interpret behavior.

The question is, can you see the other who is behind your assumptions?
Are you open to dropping that story and truly connecting with the one in front of you?