In tennis, there is an etiquette that players follow.

One of the principles is that each player stays on their own side of the net during a match.

It is a sign of respect for the other’s space, as well as a sign of the integrity of the relationship between the players.

Crossing the net without permission is considered a breach. Whatever the circumstances, every player is expected to stay on their side. 🎾👍🏼

In the Italian Open 2022 Shapovalov jumped over the net to point out a mark on his opponent’s side of the clay court to the chair umpire, receiving a penalty for the code violation.

While in tennis, crossing the net is a clear boundary, in other relationships it is more difficult to become aware when we’ve crossed a line.

Here are some clues:

• ”Helping” or giving advice without being asked
• Focusing on others’ behaviors and shortcomings rather than our own
• Relying or projecting on others to handle our own emotions
• Using shame, guilt, obligation and threats to control and manipulate
• Making inappropriate comments and judgments
• Invalidating others’ feelings
• Dumping intense emotions, problems and stories on others without asking
• Ignoring boundaries set by others
• Losing our identity within a relationship
• Feeling pity (not the same as compassion) for others
• Micromanaging
• Snooping through others’ belongings or personal information

What else can you think of?

If relationships were guided by the same code of conduct as in tennis – where each person respects the boundaries and stays on their side – we might experience more harmonious connections.

Imagine a world where we honor personal space, avoid unnecessary interference, and maintain integrity within relationships. 🤝🏼💕