SELF-REALIZATION/SELF-ACCEPTANCE
POINTERS andREMINDERS
“Open your eyes and see. Stop imagining that you have to be this or do that. There are no conditions to meet. There is nothing to do, nothing to give up. Just look. Reality exists and is, by its very nature, pure observing consciousness.”
This could be the mantra that urges us to observe the world and people.
The art of observation is linked to an open mind, which allows us to gain surprising perspectives.
Eventually, we learn to observe our inner world as well. We combine all individual perceptions into a total perception in which all sensations, thoughts, feelings, and physical sensations are simultaneously held in open awareness.
In doing so, the experience of open awareness does not have to be separate from our everyday experiences. Rather, we can learn to live as unique beings while resting in the vastness of all that is.
Between a Rock and a Hard Place – “Going No Contact with your parents”
When a parent uses their home as a place where they can revoke your right to be there…
What if we all need to come out of the closet?
When we’re afraid to come out of the closet, it’s not just because we fear being too…
Martha Stewart, Drew Barrymore, and the Fear of Intimacy No One Talks About
Martha Stewart and Drew Barrymore inadvertently reveal two expressions or the flip sides…
Superhero Translates to “Stuck in the Rescue Loop”
We’ve glamorized the rescuer. The one who shows up, cape fluttering. They’re dependable,…
$75 for a candle that smells like Gwyneth’s vag? Smells like capitalism.
In a capitalist system, value is subjective - something is “worth” what people are…
What if the real promised land isn’t a place but a state of being?
The "promised land" is the place where being itself rests in its own fullness. It’s the…
What if saying yes to heartbreak is the key to love?
What if saying yes to heartbreak - like Noah Centineo in To All the Boys: P.S. I Still…
Jennifer Jason Leigh’s character shows her daughter how to commodify herself
In Atypical Elsa (Jennifer Jason-Leigh) suggests altering her daughter Casey’s school…
The same system that shaped Harvey Weinstein also shaped the women pointing fingers — and the women who raised him
Trigger warning: If you have been a victim of sexual assault or if you're a mother, this…
What Really Happened in the French Open Final – Fire vs. Earth
When Aryna Sabalenka said after losing the French Open final to Coco Gauff, "I lost…
Signs of child objectification
When parenting becomes performance, it’s really about control. About objectification. And…
Dakota Johnson needs a tissue to cover her cleavage – Can we stop confusing self-objectification with freedom?
Dakota Johnson, like many women in the public eye, walks a narrow line between personal…
Spiritual superiority is still superiority – John Allen Chau didn’t die for faith.
John Allen Chau was the missionary who tried to convert the isolated Sentinelese tribe in…
Brigitte Macron shoved her husband’s face – Domestic violence has a shadow we rarely talk about.
I grew up watching this pattern: A father who shut down. A mother who couldn’t regulate -…
Tom Cruise told Hayley Atwell this Trick – How to stop running, stop hiding & face your fears
Hayley Atwell shared that when she struggled with social anxiety, Tom Cruise told her to…
Will I Am about putting a dream into reality
When you're living your purpose, it’s no longer "work" in the conventional sense. It’s…
Signs your mother thinks she owns you
Whenever I visit my mom, she barges into my room without knocking. “This is my house!”…
Georgina Chapman – When opportunism looks like survival – until you see the pattern
Women like Georgina often choose powerful men for status, wealth, and protection. They…
In Lady Bird, Saoirse Ronan points out that even the parent-child relationship is transactional
We don’t like to admit it. But it is. A child gives obedience, affection, performance.…
Why is Kylie Jenner still asking for his gaze – when she’s got the whole world watching?
We inherit behaviors not just genetically, but emotionally, relationally, somatically. If…
Leadership isn’t about dominance and status – Pope Francis showed us a different way
Leadership isn't about ascending above others. It's about descending into service. Pope…
Why celebrities are a perfect mirror to make the unconscious conscious
You may not care about them. You may think they are shallow, completely irrelevant to…
What if Jesus didn’t die for our sins – but to show us what happens when the illusion of self dissolves?
The traditional Christian view of Jesus’ death on the cross focuses heavily on an…
Katy Perry rebrands God as a “goddess” – but what if feminism runs on unconscious patterns?
Feminism often fights patriarchy out there. It often becomes reactive, opposing "man" -…
White Lotus holds up a mirror – but here’s what no one talks about competitive female friendships
The side-eyes. The subtle digs. The fake support. The dynamic between the three childhood…
What Patrick Schwarzenegger in White Lotus fears most is exactly what could set him free
Most of us are terrified of being nothing, of being nobody. Because we mistake…
When fearing abandonment: Do you fear losing others or facing yourself alone?
The fear of abandonment might be a fear of being left without support or connection,…
Which taboo did Chappell Roan break about parenthood that made people so furious?
In an interview on Call her Daddy Chappell Roan said out loud what is usually held under…
Challenge your mind: Try to change the direction of the train
The difference between you and me, whether politically, religiously, or morally, often…
Madison Key’s universal insight that applies to every area of life
Madison Keys, once expected to be one of tennis' greats, won her first Grand Slam just…
Most people don’t get what Aimee Lou Wood’s line in White Lotus really means
What does Aimee Lou Wood’s line in White Lotus - “You are the victim of your own…
Imagine if the Lively/Baldoni controversy had nothing to do with sexual assault
Imagine if it was about jealousy spiraling out of control. Imagine Reynolds feeling…
Zoe Saldaña’s Oscar win, one single word, and the painful truth it reveals
There is something undeniably revealing about Zoe Saldaña's reaction at the Oscars.…
Matt Damon’s Oscar win wasn’t what he expected
You’d think that winning an Oscar would be the ultimate fulfillment - like the…
When cancel culture is the new pillory
Even if you don’t know Kim Sae Ron, her tragic death at 24 is a lens through which to…
The Real Reason Your Dreams Are Failing (And It’s Not What You Think)
Even if you’re not a tennis fan like I am, I thought that Madison Keys' recent Australian…
Stop Chasing Conditional Happiness
The thought, 'If XYZ happens, then I'll be happy,' is so common that we rarely question…
We’re not sculptors of children. We’re gardeners, tending to growth
We still have this idea that children come into this world blank, waiting for us to shape…
Why Discipline is Actual Self-Care
When we think of self-care, we tend to picture comforting activities: a hot bath, a cozy…
The Lie We Tell Ourselves about Parenting: When Society Equates Codependency with Care
In many families, excessive worry is often mistaken for heightened care or as a sign for…
Self-determination: Why It’s Essential to Recognize This as a Human Right (Because a Child Is Not Just a Child, but a Full Human Being)
This story shows how some mothers believe they’re always acting out of “love” and doing…
Lady Gaga – Beyond positivity, the necessity of embracing our shadows
If you cannot accept your shadows or learn to integrate them, your light will never be as…
Unpacking Emotional Baggage: The Invisible Load We Carry into Relationships
When people fall in love, they often think they've left their past behind. They meet…
The Healer Within: Reclaiming Your Power to Heal
When we’re unwell, physically or emotionally, we revert to the mindset of a child. We…
Breaking the Illusion: Jennifer Lopez Opens Up About Her Struggles with Low Self-Esteem
When you think of Jennifer Lopez, what comes to mind? Glamour, success, and the kind of…
Breaking the Loop: The Power of Owning Your Mistakes
We all mess up. Whether it’s snapping at someone we love, dropping the ball at work, or…
The Mother Wound: Understanding Learned Co-Dependency
Co-dependency often gets trivialized as simply being "too nice" or "overly caring," but…
We are all in this together
“We’re all in this together” is more than just a common expression of solidarity. It…
Realizing You’re Part of the Greater Whole
Carlos Alcaraz couldn’t bring home Olympic gold for Spain. Even though it seems like a…
When your birthday sneaks up and you’ve got nothing planned
In many Western societies where birthdays, let alone milestone birthdays, are a big deal,…
Finding acceptance of nature’s wildness
Indigenous cultures often lived in close connection with nature, seeing themselves as…
Life Beyond Fairness: Finding Magic in Vulnerability and Openness
While it is human to chase the "good stuff" - love, joy, success - and to desire comfort…
When it comes to self-reflection
Self-reflection is basically the emotional equivalent of cleaning out your basement.…
Why Do We Run From Truth
Running away from Truth is something we all do at times, and it usually comes from…
Utopia – a distant dream?
While the concept of a perfect society holds enormous promise, it also calls for deep…
That summer feeling – A Playlist for the deeply accepting soul
As summer winds down, we can't help but reflect on the unique vibe it brought us.…
Let’s heal so we can stop bleeding on others
When we go through tough emotional experiences, it's not uncommon for us to carry that…
When the universe has other plans for you: How to handle curveballs
In today's world, perfection is often seen as the standard - whether it's in our careers,…
The greatest gift you have to give
In a world deeply entangled in war, conflict, economic inequality, climate change,…
The Dark Truth Behind Celebrity Overdoses: Why Our Search For Blame Is Missing The Bigger Picture
Addiction is a devastating reality, and when loved ones like Matthew Perry’s stepfather,…
From Greed to Growth: A Tale of Two Brothers’ Transformation
In a vast forest lived two brothers, Donald and Nic, born into a family of woodcutters.…
The monumental shift to focus on ourselves
We often think that when we have a disagreement, it's the other person who needs to…
How we get hooked on negative emotions
Just like how people can get addicted to drugs, we can get hooked on negative emotions.…
Where insecurities come from
We often have automatic, negative thoughts about ourselves. For example, if someone…
Can you imagine a process-oriented society?
In the land of Progressia, two neighboring villages stood in stark contrast: Goalington…
Overcoming robotic bahavioral patterns
As individuals, we would like to believe that we can determine our own choices and thus…
Children are not possessions
Children are not possessions. They are beings in their own right. Children are…
We are all giants
While we might identify ourselves with our small egos, there’s a giant within us. THE…
You are emotional addicted and you don’t even know it
First, realizing we have an emotional addiction is difficult. It requires self-reflection…
The driving force behind human conflict
You could ask anyone if they desire peace and harmony, and without hesitation, everyone…
Reclaiming your inherent authority
When we talk about authority, we're not referring to it in the context of roles or…
When a mother is trying to protect herself
I understand that it's hard to see your child struggle and fail, and it's even harder to…
The messy truth of not fitting into a box
We thought about making parallel accounts [in Instagram] to share other things we do and…
Healing the Emotional Dragon
The classic quote "walking on eggshells" captures the feeling of tiptoeing around the…
The dualistic split in childhood hurt we all had to endure
Can you identify the aspects of yourself that were accepted and those that were rejected…
Identifing with the wrong me
It’s the recognition that we’re part of something greater and not just our ego’s desires,…
From loneliness to aloneness to all-oneness
When we don't have someone special in our lives or feel unsupported, we have a choice: we…
Underneath mistrust lies our greatest power
We can easily see that when a dog has been mistreated, it may act aggressively and…
What the hell is a phony phenomenon?
It is sad that we have to say this: We were conditioned as children to feel the need to…
Walking the tightrope – control vs. trust
The relationship between trust and control is like walking a tightrope: it's tricky. In…
Flip your view upside down – We are spiritual beings having a …
Realizing that we are spiritual beings having a human experience rather than just human…
The big difference an afterlife makes
In the Eastern world, the concept of reincarnation is deeply ingrained from childhood.…
What we misunderstand about love
We've been taught that sacrifice equals love, but that's a misunderstanding. Think about…
Why children will soak up everything like it’s 100% true
Children are essentially walking subconscious mind: Until about 2 years old, they operate…
Why you are no stranger to me
If we haven’t met, it just means that - we haven’t met. But I know you. You are no…
Turning shit into manure
Shit happens. And whenever life goes off the rails, whenever we find a discrepancy…
The invisible wounds caused by emotional abuse
Having grown up in an abusive environment, I understand firsthand the challenge of…
Do you really want to realize yourself?
Do you really want to realize yourself? Because there’s a chance you don’t. Despite the…
Confronted with a tough truth – Deceiver and deceived
There are moments in our lives when we face uncomfortable truths or emotions that…
Parents give, children take – is that so?
Parents usually think they're the ones who give, and kids are the ones who receive. And…
Holding the tension of opposing feelings
If only we could stay centered, holding opposing feelings within ourselves… We don’t like…
Do we really need to make that journey?
The notion that 'the journey never needed to be made' echoes in the wisdom shared by many…
What are the two realities?
Imagine your mind as a mirror, reflecting the realities of your existence. In one…
People, we are NOT separate
In our daily lives, it often feels like we're worlds apart - different genders, races,…
Do you really want to get better? There is a chance you don’t
Sometimes, we might say we want to get better. Obviously. Who wouldn't want to be better?
Beyond piety and institutions to a deep spirituality
While religions might give us a structured framework for spiritual beliefs and practices,…
When tears manipulate
Manipulation is when someone tries to control or influence others in a hidden way for…
The high cost of loosing our inner child
Our inner child represents the vulnerable and authentic part of ourselves that holds our…
It’s okay to feel sad
It's one of those emotions that can catch us off guard, leaving us wondering why we're…
Just say what you want, and you might even get it
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where it feels like the other person expects…
We are so much more than our bodies
Our true essence extends beyond the boundaries of our physical bodies. Our consciousness…
Where love is conditional – the cycle of never feeling good enough
Conditional love means that affection, acceptance, and validation are contingent upon…
The ‘deep state’ of helplessness
Deep within each of us, there exists an inner child—a reflection of our past experiences,…
One trick pony – part 2 – Hidden parts of ourselves
Authenticity requires us to confront and accept the entirety of who we are, including the…
One trick pony – part 1 – What hinders authenticity
We may feel compelled to present a simplified and idealized version of ourselves,…
Looking at the stars is a look back into a distant past
Did you know that looking at the stars is a look back in time? The light we see from the…
The paradox of being “sorry, but not sorry”
This is the idea that while we are not truly sorry for expressing ourselves or for the…
Success, fame, wealth – Could it be that happiness is an individual matter?
We live in a society that values achievement and status, and we are constantly exposed to…
The real treassure of reparenting yourselves
The concept of the "inner child" refers to a psychological perspective that suggests that…
So simple we might forget about it – the hidden power of breathwork
Focusing on our breath, It's a powerful practice that brings us into the present moment,…
Peeling back the layers to finally find ourselves
In our quest to have others accept us for who we truly are, it’s ironic that we often…
The greatest challenge for humanity’s survival – part 2
Examples of humans introducing the European Rabbit as a foreign species to new lands date…
The greatest challenge for humanity’s survival – part 1
Everything in nature strives for balance, an equilibrium. That was the thinking I grew up…
Can I get my hair wet? – part 2 – How we lose our subjective sense of self
We should think that we have a right to exercise our autonomy. In particular, the right…
Can I get my hair wet? – part 1 – How we lose control over our own bodies and minds
It was a hot summer day when I decided to get on my bike and ride out of town. I went to…
Somebody Somewhere Some Time – If we feel lonely
“I sometimes walk around the neighborhood at night, just hoping to find someone to talk…
After all, contentment is – The erroneous paths of KENZO
“At the end of the 1980s I wanted a Japanese house with a garden in the middle of Paris.…
It’s really fucked up – Stressed, irritable, and agitated – Navigating our daily news
Why do we feel obliged to be well informed? Our sense of duty and sophistication have…
Always is in the Middle – The secret formula of the “King of Clay”
For some time I have been watching the sky from the same place. Sometimes – when the…
Hip, Hot and Holy – part 2 – An entire approach to existence
In little more than 100 years since its cultivation in the West, yoga has significantly…
Hip, Hot and Holy – part 1 – High-flying gurus and their schemes
Two slanted almond-shaped eyes, rimmed with kohl were like a perfect promise of the…
I want to sex up spirituality – Training for our ultimate potential
Even though “spirituality” is charged with all sorts of preconceptions (maybe they are…
Whipped, muzzled – The Pavlovian Conundrum
I have an American friend who is very good at languages. He moved to Germany 7 or 8 years…
Nothing to indulge in – A pilgrimage exprerience of going cold turkey
When I walked the Camino de Santiago (English: Way of St. James) I had experienced an…
Autopilot interrupted – When the world suddenly came to a standstill
The world as we knew it had come to a standstill. Everyone was paralyzed. A super…
Someday I will be happy – When words destroy togetherness
"Someday I will be happy," he said. Lying on the bed, he was staring into space.
