The walls you build to protect yourself
The walls that you’ve built to keep yourself safe also keep you isolated and stop you from unfolding
Become aware:
Your ‘protective walls’ trap you. The walls that you’ve built to keep yourself safe also keep you isolated and stop you from unfolding. By constantly trying to protect yourself, you miss out on deep connections and opportunities. Realize that true security comes from facing life openly, despite its risks. When you stop clinging to these barriers and start being vulnerable and open, you allow room not only for yourself to radiate who you truly are but also for meaningful relationships and a richer life to happen.
If we learn early on that openness can lead to exploitation or ridicule, we are likely to develop defense mechanisms to protect ourselves
Humans are social beings, and the quality of our lives is strongly impacted by the quality of our relationships and the depth of intimacy we share with each other.
It is the level of openness, trust, and authentic expression that directly affects our ability to have intimate connections with others as well as with ourselves.
And this is why our childhood upbringing plays such a crucial role in our lives.
These defenses, while initially serving as a safeguard, can later become the very barriers that prevent us from engaging in genuine, intimate relationships
Childhood experiences shape our views on trust, vulnerability, and self-expression.
If we learn early on that openness can lead to exploitation or ridicule, we are likely to develop defense mechanisms to protect ourselves.
These defenses, while initially serving as a safeguard, can later become the very barriers that prevent us from engaging in genuine, intimate relationships.
We may have learned to see openness as a weakness, and that it is better not to reveal our true selves, but rather to play a role or put on a mask to protect ourselves from judgment, hurt, and rejection, not to reveal any information that might make us vulnerable.
We build walls for self-protection, which in turn become our prison, isolating us from the very connections that could bring us joy and fulfillment.
It takes courage to dismantle these walls, to be vulnerable again, and to risk exposure for the sake of authentic connection. Yet, it is often in taking these risks that we find the most meaningful and rewarding relationships.
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